Unexpected Gifts...
By: Neil Johnson
I want to encourage you all to invest time, effort, and finances in to what’s most important. To illustrate this point I want to tell you a little bit about what my family has been experiencing.
My Dad is dying. In truth we all are. I’m not trying to be morbid, it’s simply a fact we must all deal with. It could happen at any time, yet some of us are given the gift of knowing that it will visit us soon. My Dad has been given this “gift” although some people wouldn’t call it that.
This past December Dad was diagnosed with lung cancer. Initially it was thought that the cancer was discovered early enough to treat with an upper lobectomy, which involved removing the upper third of the lung. As unpleasant as that sounds it would’ve removed the cancer and eliminated the problem. Filled with hope my Dad and I went down to Mayo where he was run through a battery of tests. The results were not positive. Surgery was not an option. He was in stage four and we were told that ninety-five percent of the people were dead within five years. On the ride home from Rochester Dad and I talked about a number of things, but one of the things we talked about was the “gift.”You see, there were to many times where both Dad and I allowed things to get in the way of spending time together or saying things that needed to be said, but now we knew we didn’t have that much time left. The conversations became more open and we were dedicated to making sure my kids knew their Grandpa more.
This spring we set up a fishing trip to Elbow Lake. We stayed at Elbow Lake Lodge, which provided the perfect atmosphere for what would turn out to most likely be our last fishing trip together. The general manager of the resort, Lee Byram, is also a pastor so he had an interest in making sure our stay was enjoyable and care free. The fishing was slow that weekend but the important thing was spending time with my Dad, my brother, my nephew, and my two oldest boys. My Dad loves his grandchildren and on the first night we gathered around him as he told us a story and presented us with some special gifts (lures that he knew to be the best). The next day while attempting to fish we must have looked like something out of the Keystone Cops. My brother doesn’t fish, my dad had injured his foot, and the kids are young (7,6, and 6). At one point one line was stuck in a tree, one lure was snagged on the carpet, another line was snagged on a rock, and two lines were tangled up together. It seemed to be all we could do to keep lines untangled and in the water. But we were together. I watched as my Dad struggled along, yet loved on his grandkids.
This past week I was at Elbow Lake Lodge again. I was with my wife, our five kids and a special friend of our family. This time the fishing was fantastic. We caught walleye, northern, bass, panfish, and perch. Then we got a phone call regarding my Dad, and one more gift. Dad was in the hospital and was told that because of his pain he would no longer be able to live at home by himself. We cut our vacation a little short and went to Bemidji to pick him up.
It was during our car ride home that I was given the best gift of all. Just Dad and I were in the car. We talked about the past and we talked about the future. He told me he had finally made peace with God and had asked to be forgiven of his sins. For me that was the best gift, something I had been praying about for quite some time. But then again, my Dad had been given the “gift” of knowing his time on Earth was short, and he was able to put his affairs in order. Some of us will never get that gift.
Today as I helped my dad get out of bed, go to the bathroom, and get a little bit of food I was reminded just how fragile life is. I wish I would’ve spent even more time with my Dad. Still, I am grateful for the special times we did have, most of which occurred while at the lake, whether it was our personal property or a place like Elbow Lake Lodge. The key is to have an environment free of distractions. The lake is the perfect place.
Larry William Johnson passed away on Monday July, 6th at my home in Oak Grove, MN. He kept a positive attitude and fought to the end but eventually the cancer won. He was as graceful in his passing as he had proven to be in life. We worked hard to manage his pain and keep him comfortable till the Hospice Nurse arrived (thank God for them). We didn’t do everything right and I know he was in incredible pain, but he never got upset or angry.
Pictured from left to right - Steve and Damien, Nathan, Grandpa Larry, Isaiah and NeilJust the other day I was talking to my oldest son, Isaiah, about the pain Grandpa Larry was experiencing at the end. Isaiah looked at me with a big smile and said, “But he’s not in any pain anymore! In fact he’s probably already caught the new world record fish!!”
Although I can see the gifts God provided at the end, I still wasn’t ready to loose my Dad. The best and most fitting comments I heard were from a business contact who said, “Neil it’s a big hole.”
May God Bless you and your family in your Lakeshore dreams!
Neil Johnson is an avid fisherman, outdoor enthusiast and currently works with www.LakeShoreDreams.com




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what a great gift to receive Neil. blessings to you and your family
Neil,
Thank you for sharing that story. I have always thought the lake is the ultimate church, great for reflecting, getting in touch with whatever is needed at the time. So sorry for the loss of you Dad!
My brother is facing something similar. He gave up the "City life"; sold it all to buy a small resort on Mille Lacs 10 years ago. He learned in June that he has stage 4 cancer that has invaded his jaw and tongue. He has started intense chemo and radiation now at the peak of their business season. Luckily, we have a large family of support.
I pray he can find the same peace in his heart, having received what you called "a gift."
Thanks again, and God bless,
Jane
PS Brad Reichel benefit Aug 22nd 4p-8p in Wahkon,MN---if you may be in the area!